Flaws & All

This post is really just a side note of things that I've been wondering lately. Nothing to extensive.

Everyone seems to have this notion of what love is or what it means to be in love, but does anyone stop to think about whether or not it's worth everything that comes with it? Should love be all about sacrifice? Should you have to sacrifice everything that you feel because the other person doesnt agree or understand? Should you have to sacrifice who you are because your partner doesn't like some of the things you do? Should you have to cast your feelings about something aside because your partner can't or won't see things from your point of view? Should love be all about changing who you are in order to better fit the mold that another person has in his/her mind?

Is losing certain parts of yourself worth it in order to keep the person that you love? Or should they love you for who you are, flaws and all?

My answer:
Sometimes. But it also means respect, compromise, putting someone elses needs before your own, mutual adoration, working together as a team. It should NEVER be one side sacrificing all the time. It is a give and take relationship (or at least should be).

10 Ways Women Push A Relationship 6 Inches From Hell

Most women are very emotional creatures and when their emotions get involved SOME women make classic and sometimes catastrophic relationship mistakes. Here are 10 things women do that can put a "toe tag" on a relationship

10. Stop asking questions about his Ex-Girlfriends. Asking a question or two about why they broke up is one thing, but asking about every little detail of the their relationship will lead to trouble. Lets be honest there are some things you don't want or need to know. SIDENOTE: He doesn't want to know every detail about your Ex-boyfriend's either.

9. "I can change him." Sweetheart you can not change a man! He smokes, drinks, scratches his nuts a lot, doesn't want kids and that is who he is. No matter what you do or how much you beg or threaten he WILL NOT change unless he wants to. If he isn't someone that you can see yourself being with up front then save yourself and him the drama and keep it moving.

8. Do not make the mistake of turning everything into a big production. Having a huge blow out about him not putting the toilet seat down is ridiculous and childish...just put the damn thing down. Blowing minor things out of proportion and nagging him every 5 minutes is going to annoy him and once given the title of an annoying broad there is no turning back.

7. Don't try to embed yourself into every part of his life. He has friends and so should you. You can't be together all the time and why would you want to?

6. Sex does not equate to love. Sex is sex plain and simple and there is nothing wrong with that. As a women (excuse my french) being able to fuck without emotion is one skill you need to learn or you are going to go through a lot of bullshit getting attached to everyone you sleep with.

5. "I aint saying you a gold digger..." If you are waiting around for a man to come along and give you everything you want and need you'll be waiting for a long time. If you have a man and you EXPECT him to give you the world you will not get it. He doesn't owe you anything and acting like he does will have your ass high and dry crying in a corner while he and his money go elsewhere.

4. Thou shalt not fuck his friends! I don't care what he did, didn't do, or thought about doing running through the home boys is a big NO-NO! Not only will you lose him but any respect you had will be out the window with him, his friends, and anyone else they tell...because they will talk about the hoe that had sex with 4 best friends like it was nothing. Hope it was worth it.

3. Leave your friends out your relationship. Of course you wanna tell your girls some stuff but they do not need to know all the intimate details. Not to mention that most of the time friends give the WORST relationship advice ever because they give advice based on their personal experience.

2. Do not go thru his stuff! Not only is it obsessive and stalker(ish) but you look stupid and if you keep looking you will find something eventually. Going through his phone looking for pictures and text messages is just sad. If you can't trust him keep it moving. I personally have found the the accuser is usually the one that is guilty.

Last but not least..the most important thing to remember is....

1. Pussy is not a commodity!!! Please don't think that just because you have "good pussy" that he will never leave. It may as well grow on trees and bottom line is...if it gets wet he will stroke that shit. if all you have to offer is head and pussy you have the makings for a great career as a whore not a wife. Step your game up ladies pussy isn't everything.

Pay attention or say hello to heartbreak